i finally found the perfect explanation..
"For those who don’t know about these women, watch out for them because they’re a sly little bunch. A man doesn’t need to spend money on this girl, and he might not even sleep with this girl, all he needs to do is show up, like her a lot, tell her how beautiful she is, appreciate her company, acknowledge it, show her the time of her life in the most innocent way possible, and then that’s all she wrote.
She needed that. All of it. You know why? Because lately, the man in her life — either the one she is in a relationship with, the one she just broke up with, or the one she really wants to get with — hasn’t been doing what she wants him to do."